3.30.2010

Vintage family wedding photos


 I'd really like to set up a table of old wedding photos of our parents and grandparents somewhere in the attached barn at the winery.
My grandparents on both sides were so excited about the prospect of my wedding and I think it's only right to honor them in some way. First up, my only living grandparent: Nonna Enza.
Wasn't she beautiful?
After they were married in Calabria, my grandparents honeymooned in Venice and Florence for a week before my grandfather had to leave for America. My grandmother joined him several months later, desperately counting down the days until she'd see him again. Throughout their time apart, he sent her a love letter a week. She kept them all, stored them away and won't let anyone see them to this day. I'm really curious, but I kind of like that she won't let me.
This woman who, throughout her 80 years has not been known to keep anything to herself, is holding on to this one box of secrets between her and the love of her life. It's just theirs, and she wants to keep it that way. 
But the wedding photos were always a source of contention. 
Just for some background, my grandfather was a partisan in World War II. He fought against Mussolini's army, hiding in the Appenines of Emiglia-Romagna. He escaped a concentration camp and there were flyers across the south seeking his capture. He was amazing. But he deserves his own post, or novel, or documentary, really. 
My grandparents were wed around the same time as Nonna Enza's older sister, whose wedding photos turned out beautifully. Naturally, Nonna Enza wanted to use the same photographer. 
Nonno Gianni refused. The photographer was a fascist, he said. 
But who cares what his political leanings are? He's really good, said Nonna Enza. 
I can't hire a fascist to take my wedding photos - end of story, said Nonno Gianni. 
And so my grandfather hired an old socialist, anti-Mussolini friend to take his pictures. 
Not one came out. No memories from their wedding day, and not one photo of my grandparents together in her gown and his suit, because Nonno Gianni was already gone by the time the photographer shared the sad news. 
Shortly thereafter, my grandmother's youngest sister was ready to receive her first Holy Communion. Being that her family didn't have much money at the time, she offered up her wedding dress, to be cut short and turned into a communion dress. 
Luckily, she took the photo above alone in a small vineyard behind her house a month after the wedding.


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20 comments:

  1. i love this photo- and the story!

    we used old wedding photos in our guestbook. but framing them is an awesome idea, too.

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  2. This is a lovely idea -- what a beautiful photo.
    xxoo Josie
    http://winksmilestyle.blogspot.com

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  3. What a lovely story, and a gorgeous photo. (I wouldn't want a Fascist photographer, either!)

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  4. What a beautiful story! OMG! :)

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  5. You should do a table of photos!!! What an amazing story and photo!! XO

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  6. wow, what a story! sad about the pictures though.

    and thanks for the compliment - i only wish I had done a better job and taken some close-ups. it's not even a fancy one - we indians get crazy with them!

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  7. What a great story. I would be dying to read those letters too. Love that she still has them.

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  8. I love old wedding photos, and what a great story!

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  9. What a story! I can only imagine what is shared in those letters. but like you, I don't think I want to know. I think I would want those secrets to stay your grandmothers and no one elses. how special is that?!

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  10. What a beautiful photo and charming story (would also love to hear more about your heroic granddad). You should enter The Sartorialist's vintage fashion contest with this picture (if your grandma allows it, that is).

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  11. there's something kind of great about having NO PHOTOS of your wedding. you get to remember it the way you want? I dunno.

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  12. I love the way you told this story...I can just see the arguing. I love it when you "tell" your genealogy.

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  13. Your grandma is beautiful..thank you for stopping by my blog and I'm so happy to have found yours!

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  14. we did the same thing and displayed the photos on the cake table... i think it's a wonderful way to honor and include them.

    i love old photographs... it's funny to think that someday my wedding photos will look vintage to my grandkids!

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  15. LOVE this! Oh! My nonna and nonna moved to America in the 50s, but during the war my nonno went to Ethiopia. He was on Mussolini's side, and his family were devout fascists - they name his younger brother Benito :)

    And speaking of Italy during wartime, if you haven't yet - you MUST watch the movie Malena. Not only is is a gorgeous, gorgeous movie, but Monica Bellucci is Malena, which is similar to Melina, and I happen to have the biggest girl crush on Monica...

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  16. She looks so happy. That photo really made me smile!

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  17. I love vintage photos. She looked lovely! And I love the story. Thx for sharing :)

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